Yesterday was Mother’s Day in the UK. My mother died in 1996. She was born in 1900, survived the Influenza pandemic in 1918, married at 23 – an Italian who became a jazz musician in the 30’s and 40’s, lived through two world wars, gave birth to five children, lost two toddlers – one to… More REMEMBERING MUM
Million of pounds worth of food is dumped every year in the UK, yet a recent article in The Guardian reported that three men are to stand trial soon for taking some tomatoes, mushrooms and cheese from dustbins at the back of the Iceland supermarket chain. The solicitors for the men have attempted to get… More FREE FOOD?
Love is a funny old game. It has lots of rules and signposts that you can miss or avoid, depending on where you are in your life. Loving someone is fraught. It’s fraught, no matter how wonderful it feels. Fraught – definition: fraught / frôt/• adj. 1. (fraught with) (of a situation or course of action) filled with or destined… More DEFINING LOVE
I’ve been reading everywhere that the number of parents who are estranged from their adult children grows bigger every day. Some people explain this as a culture shift, that adult children raised over the past 30 years experienced a different world, where a ‘me’ culture exploded and the focus was on getting things for yourself… More SHUTTING PARENTS OUT
What do you really think about old people? Do you see them as a pain in the neck? As senile, shuffling parasites? As people who must be discounted in favour of the young? It’s a sad truth that we have little real respect for the elderly unless they are rich and famous. Since Dr. Harold Shipman… More DO WE HATE OLD PEOPLE?
Are you one of the million or so grandparents being denied access to your grandchildren by their parents? There is no pain like it, is there? Every day, you wake up and feel as if your heart is being torn apart. And there is nothing you can do about it. In the UK, grandparents have few rights in law, so… More LOSING CONTACT WITH YOUR GRANDCHILDREN
Is it naïve of me to want to trust my fellow woman or man? Of late, it’s been a turbulent time. My faith in our politicians and others who are in positions of power, has taken a hit. This makes me question my own personal world and how much I can trust those around me.… More A SOCK IN THE EYE
Research for a new novel led me to talk to parents going through divorce and separation. Here are some of the things they told me. Thank you to everyone who contributed and gave permission for these quotes to be published on my blog. ‘I am thinking about what it means to be a parent… More THOUGHTS ON KIDS AND DIVORCE
As the mother of four adult children, I’ve been pondering on their childhoods and my parenting skills. I have always worked. Why did I work? My reasons were were purely economic. How did I cope? Like working women today, I enlisted on the help of grandparents, neighbours and then nurseries and child-minders. It was predominantly my domain, this juggling.… More HEDGE FUNDS OR CHILDREN?
Families who can’t talk to each other, create problems that grow in magnitude and are passed down the generations. Communication, a willingness to empathise and hold out a hand, is the glue that keeps relationships healthy. To achieve this, needs the wisdom of Job and the patience of a saint. It also need assertiveness. Running away from problems in a family set up, refusing to discuss… More ONLY CONNECT